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No, you might not like that the disabled scots dyke hits back, but she will not be silenced, so deal with it.
Or just block me.
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I recommend the latter, frankly, seeing as most of you are incredibly boring people.
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@purplehippo I suggest dealing with it the scottish way and either invading their castle and beheading their king, drinking lots of whisky until you forget about it, or using sticks to hit heads into their lawn.
How the latter turned into Golf, I'm still not sure. I'm a hipster and prefer the older version though.
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@sim Honestly, I'd be happy if they do defederate, because it's the happiest scenario for all involved: they no longer have to deal with "problematic" and "hateful" "hostile" people like us, and we no longer have to deal with the constant deluge of harassment they subject us to and then project onto us. You know, I generally disagree with DARVO in many cases it's us…
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@purplehippo @sim The irony of the thin-skinned allegation is they are the ones that feel the compulsive need to continually interject in the conversations of others to be offended, when a more self-confident person would just leave well enough alone, because you realize you're not going to affect any change. This is a lot of the reason that I don't feel a need to e…
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@sim @purplehippo You ever notice that when "we" do it, it is unforgivable "toxic" "hostility" and when they do it, it's "just" "a joke"?
Both contexts to the text are possible, but neither extreme happens 100% of the time with either group as would be said.
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@horridula @moonman @sim It's less "be so involved" per se - you can talk all you want (I'm the most active user on my own instance by far lol) - but he basically just goes whereever the loudest opinions are. The first thing I learned in psychology is most of the things actually most beneficial to people suffering disorders are things they will tell you they hate, w…
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@moonman @sim Nothing you can do can make someone determined to do something stop doing something, anyways in most cases.
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@sim @purplehippo The need for control is the central locus of their validation behaviour. They need to be seen "doing something" about The Outgroup.
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@sim @moonman @horridula There is definitely an aspect of trying to appeal to social groups to the behaviour given how he tried to ingratiate himself with me when Mikael couldn't help him (and now goes back to Mikael now since I blocked him over his horrendous attitude towards my wife), but at the same time, they wouldn't have to be so compliant to external groups if…
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@sim @moonman @horridula @dtluna The observation @verius made of admins getting the community they cultivate, seems more and more apt as time goes by.
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@maiyannah @purplehippo @sim That's true. As in the last Zero Books podcast I've also always been a precariat, so I don't have very much control over life in the monkeyverse but so long as I have some technology and an internet connection I can at least be in control of my online presence.
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@sim @moonman No, some instances are getting it just fine, but there's definitely some lag happening somewhere in the tubes.
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@moonman @sim For instance I got @bob's reply there pretty much when he sent it I just haven't gotten to it quite yet
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@bob @purplehippo @sim The Internet should be the ultimate equalizer, where gender, race, sexuality, financial circumstances, or other such things become meaningless as we all engage as individual human beings and nothing more, but authoritarians are bent on trying to control it.
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@moonman @sim I just looked at InternetHealthReport.com and Level3 is shitting the bed bad again so this is probably why, you're getting the notice on some retry a while later probably.
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@sim @moonman Network stuff like that always leads to (usually) intermittent and difficult to work around problems since its not for instance really my server or yours that are the problem, but the intervening networks the data has to traverse to get between them.
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@sim @moonman In postActiv's case it will retry the message a certain amount of times (I have it set to 3 here) before it gives up, so the out of error ones are probably the result of that Level3 provider's packet loss.
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@moonman @sim If you want to rule out it being some internet condition in general, http://internethealthreport.com/ is god-tier, for NA anyways.
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@moonman @sim *out of order, rather, pardon me
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@moonman @sim It depends on how diverse your provider's peering is, ultimately. The more routes they have available for you, the easier that becomes.
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@moonman Bet ya the error before was a trawler bot, and all those domains will be gone before I can get a single one for the same reason.
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@moonman Actually this seems to confirm my theory because if they noticed and fixed a bot doing that they probably would have released the availability again.
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@sim @moonman The current method needs an overhaul, but I have so many things to develop or redevelop and only so much time in the day.
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@sim @moonman Ive been making good progress towards improvements, that's the important thing.
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@sim @moonman (Though I feel compelled to note how many people are happy to give a hack at 'fixing it themselves' when they feel their contributions are valued)
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@sim @moonman Oh for certain. If I was making something I didn't want to use myself, I wouldn't be able to ensure it's of the best quality I can muster. I think a lot of programmers get locked into paths where they end up loathing the software they themselves are writing because they change it from their own vision to appeal to others.
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@sim @moonman Everyone helps in their own way, and yours seems to be functioning as a fairly reasonable mind with things get, well, less than reasonable. As much as it has subjected you to a lot of stuff you probably should not have had to deal with.
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@sim @moonman There's a moderate position to be found here. Listening to others is important because their perspectives may lead you to good ideas you didn't have before (a lot of postActiv's changes are because of feedback!) The important thing though is YOU should be running the show, not them. Whether that you is a team of developers that are the software tea…
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@moonman @sim Put in another way: people are free to suggest whatever they like for postActiv and I value that feedback greatly - its hard to get people to even give feedback sometimes - but I'm ultimately the one that determines what I program, when, and how much time I spend on it.
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@moonman @sim Same goes for Moon when he contributes, or Verius, or Takeshitakenji, etc etc
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@moonman @sim In my project management experience (and I had to run a team of just short of 100 people once at IBM), this results in better productivity anyways, because you allow people to play to their interests and passions, which results in them being more motivated and invested in the code they're writing, which almost always results in better code faster, if people are disciplined about it.
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@sim @moonman Growth is important. It is also important that you are the arbiter of what growth ultimately occurs.
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@sim @maiyannah @purplehippo throughout history lots of people have claimed to know what human nature is only to be later proven wrong. About the best we can say is that humans are creatures animated by the ghost of language.
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