@horridula @moonman @sim It's less "be so involved" per se - you can talk all you want (I'm the most active user on my own instance by far lol) - but he basically just goes whereever the loudest opinions are.

The first thing I learned in psychology is most of the things actually most beneficial to people suffering disorders are things they will tell you they hate, want to avoid, etc etc.  A person has to learn to say "no"  He hasn't learned to do so in any meaningful way.  (Saying "no" to outside developers or users doesn't really count, since they have no affect on his local community or his bottom line)