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@nerthos Or at the very least one who has low self-confidence.
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@nerthos While its not quite the same context, this is why I don't understand some women's obsession with unreasonably large dildos.
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@nerthos Moreover every woman has a threshold where the size stops being stimulating and starts being painful.
And when it stops being painful doesn't mean it's stopped being damaging, either, which is why a lot of stuff passing as "sex ed" on tumblr and youtube is fucking retarded.
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@nerthos I kind of dont mind the idea of the latter at least? As a psychologist, I understand that if people really want to get into deviant things like BDSM or anal or whatever, you're not going to stop them, so the best thing to do is to educate them how to experiment with these things without harm to themselves. The problem is that the people actually doing th…
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@nerthos No, a lot of them know this stuff is harmful, they just encourage it anyways. That's what I'm saying.
Ignorance is one thing, it can be corrected with education.
Willful blindness on the other hand, is a whole other ball game.
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@nerthos The latter are really what I'd call degenerates, as opposed to just fetishists. It's one thing to be enthusiastic about a particular thing because you like it, it's another to try to force other people into it when they probably don't enjoy it.
And that goes for much more in life than just sexual preferences, for that matter.
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@nerthos Well, to the people who genuinely enjoy that stuff, that is intimacy. The problems arise when they don't but they're doing it otherwise, either to please demanding partners, or because they're made to feel they have to by social pressures.
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@nerthos Many wouldn't, as much as I personally find "public displays of affection" that cross certain lines distasteful.
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@nerthos No, I don't think so. Actually, I think things have actually gotten better than they used to be (at least here, it may be different elsewhere) But I think there needs to be a realization that just because you're cool with something doesn't mean others are - on a broad scale to. A lot of LGB or trans acceptance issues for example come from people being …
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@nerthos I do and I don't. You shouldn't have to feel that you have to hide it, or can't talk about it among friends. I just feel it crosses the line between acceptable and unacceptable when people push it in people's faces. Moreover, I saw first hand as I grew up how trying to FORCE people to accept lesbianism and gay men just made them more resistant to the idea, so really, it's counter-productive.
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@nerthos People co-exist much better when they realize personal standards are personal, and societal standards have to encompass standards that apply to the community as a whole. Unfortunately, we are seeing a rise of authoritarian-leaning people who want to impose their own personal standards on everyone the come in contact with.
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@nerthos You really aren't, I wouldn't say. Authoritarianism isn't "just" strict adherence to personal standards, it's _defined_ by the effort to enforce it on others. You've seemed intelligent enough to know when its realistic to put forward those standards and when its unrealistic.
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@nerthos The social compact is an important thing to enforce. Ideally, we shouldn't have to enforce it often, but problems arise when people challenge it. Sometimes this challenge is valid, such as in asserting freedom of speech or the freedom of sexual orientation, but much more often lately, people try to use that social compact as a means to shame people into …
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@nerthos The thing we need to recognize with drug rehabilitation is the people that can be rehabilitated, and those which cannot. Save those that can be saved, but don't expend the time and effort on those that refuse.
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@nerthos Either is removing their customer base, one is just much more quick and direct. I think we can both agree that we waste a lot of time trying to rehabilitate addicts that have no interest in being rehabilitated however
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@nerthos People who WANT out we should definitely pull out of that. Fuck the rest of them though, as dispassionate as that seems (and is).
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@nerthos They made a choice and that choice has a set of consequences they will need to accept.
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