@pennyfortheguy Look at how many Hillary supporters are upset not at opposing values Trump represents, but instead are upset simply that Trump won, or that [label they apply to Trump followers] won.
The Other Side won. The Enemy. That's what they focus on, what they care about. If you genuinely want to fix your country, that's what you have to attack - that perception.
As to how, there's as many answers to that as there are personality types, to that's not an easy thing to answer. It's a dysfunctional system that a lot of people cling to for many different reasons.